Therapy is a process, not an event!
At the beginning we will be working around 3 main questions: 1. What do you want to change about you that will enhance your life? 2.How will you and I know that you’ve accomplished this change? /What behaviours will demonstrate these changes have been made? 3.What will you do differently with the changes in place?
but firstly I introduce myself…
My education in psychology involves integrative counselling, which gives me a broader overview and allows me to be flexible and more helpful to my clients. The approach I use is not limited and I combine different therapeutic tools and approaches to fit the needs of the individual client ; Person-Centred, Cognitive Behavioural Therapy (CBT), Gestalt, Transactional Analysis, Psychotherapy, NLP, etc.
I can support my clients to recognise patterns of behaviour which feel stuck and explore the ways in which these may no longer meet their needs. In recognising these patterns my clients can become free to make different choices and live their life in a more fulfilling way.
Each of us is unique and no one way of working will suit everyone so flexibly adapting the work to meet your needs is the best way forward.
My practice is open-minded and I listen my client’s wishes. The way I work and the approach I use is base on my client’s actual mood and needs. I am flexible; empathetic and we consult the steps first to make sure my client knows what to expect.
I work with young, adult and elderly clients
I believe we all have a tendency to move towards what we need in life, so long as the conditions (including care and love) around us are, and have been, supportive and accepting of our needs. Many of us learn, sometimes very early on in life, that some of our real needs and feelings are not acceptable to others, and therefore we find it difficult to accept them ourselves. This can result in anxiety, depression, shame, emotional numbness, self-hatred and other forms of distress, as we adapt ourselves and ignore our true needs.
In a healing, therapeutic relationship with an empathic therapist, one can experience these needs and feelings as being truly accepted and prized by another human being, and therefore we become able to better accept them in ourselves. When we accept our needs (for example, for love, respect, rest, excitement, relationships, expression of anger, release of tears, etc.), we become better able to meet them and to lead a more authentic and fulfilling life.
My non-judgemental approach has been particularly supportive to clients struggling with self-esteem, those who have internalised critical messages from others in their lives, and also people who are battling with shame related to events from their present or past. Through experiencing full acceptance from a therapist, many clients start to believe that they are fundamentally “okay”.
When you come for therapy with me, you will be setting the pace of the work. We will work with whatever you want to bring and at whatever pace and depth you choose. I will facilitate the work, but I will not act as an expert pretending that I know best. You are the expert in your own experience and I will support you, by being fully present and attuned to your process, to feel more able to trust yourself. If you are interested, we can also use creative exercises (e.g. art materials, art postcards, movement work) to help you explore your feelings further, but if you’d prefer to stick to talking, that is just fine too.
The relationship and connection with your therapist is key to this process, therefore, I work to create a space where you feel you can trust me to support you when you may be feeling at your most vulnerable or distressed.